Your Children Will Become What You Are, Teach Them Well.

“You shall therefore impress these words of mine on your heart and on your soul; and you shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontals on your forehead. And you shall teach them to your sons, talking of them when you sit in your house and when you walk along the road and when you lie down and when you rise up. And you shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates, . . . - Deuteronomy 11:18–21.

The first responsibility—teach them to your sons. And notice that the setting for teaching is not the church or any religious institution, it’s the home. It’s the family relationship. 
When you lie down, when you get up, that’s in the morning and at night. When you walk by the way. 
You see, children quickly discern between what is religious and what is real. And if they only get religious instruction in a church or religious setting, then they will divide between religion and real life. 
Also if the religious instruction comes from mother and not from daddy, the little sons will say, “When I grow up, I want to be like daddy.” And they will associate religion with female activity. And of course, for any boy, that’s sissy, so he’s just waiting till he can come to the end of it. 
But that’s not the way God arranged it. 
He said to the fathers, “You teach your sons and don’t go to the church for your pastor to do it for you, you do it at home.” 

A lot of parents today want the senior pastor or the youth pastor to do for their children what only they can do. 
God has given you that responsibility and you cannot transfer it to anybody else. 
Thank God for what pastors can do to supplement what you can do, but it can NEVER take the place of what you are expected to do